"He's just not that into you" excerpts from Greg Behrendt's book.
Introduction:
You are all dating the same guy.
Hey, I know that guy you're dating.
Yeah, I do. He's that guy that's so tired from work, so stressed about the project he's working on. He's just been through an awful breakup and it's really hitting him hard. His parents' divorce has scarred him and he has trust issues. Right now he has to focus on his career. He can't get involved with anyone until he knows what his life is about. He just got a new apartment and the move is a bitch and he has all this furniture to buy/put together/rearrange, etc. As soon as it all calms down he'll leave his wife, girlfriend, crappy job. God, he's so complicated.
He is a man made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life. Are there men who are too busy or have been through something so horrible that makes it hard for them to get involved? Yes, but there are so few of them that they should be urban legends. For as already suggested, a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
The introduction above.....yeah! Sheesh. I read this book once, but I had to read it again to get that aha moment. You know they even made a movie about this book right? haha. To all my fellow ladies. Let me just tell you that I have spoken with most all my male friends about this subject matter. (and you guys know I have more male friends than female friends). I wanted to know what they REALLY thought and I'm not gonna lie, wanted advice. And guess what? To my dismay...they were ALL spot on and said the same thing. "Jeanie, if we're not pursuing you.....WE'RE JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU." or "We MIGHT be into you, but we're either looking for someone better OR we already found someone better."
I will continue on tomorrow with ALL the lines guys will tell you when they are just not that into you. Yes it comes from the book, but also based on the chats I've had with my guy friends. It's seriously amazing how blind I was and how much "excuses" I made. It also makes me sick because as much as I hate to admit it, they (the guys) were all right. smh. But I know they are being brutally honest because they are looking out for my best interest. Yes, I have the most awesome friends who will actually tell me the truth even if it's something I don't want to hear. So ladies and gents (but mostly to ladies), a series of blog posts will be going up regarding this matter to save you (and admittingly ME) from making the same mistakes over and over again.
TO be continued tomorrow..........
Introduction:
You are all dating the same guy.
Hey, I know that guy you're dating.
Yeah, I do. He's that guy that's so tired from work, so stressed about the project he's working on. He's just been through an awful breakup and it's really hitting him hard. His parents' divorce has scarred him and he has trust issues. Right now he has to focus on his career. He can't get involved with anyone until he knows what his life is about. He just got a new apartment and the move is a bitch and he has all this furniture to buy/put together/rearrange, etc. As soon as it all calms down he'll leave his wife, girlfriend, crappy job. God, he's so complicated.
He is a man made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life. Are there men who are too busy or have been through something so horrible that makes it hard for them to get involved? Yes, but there are so few of them that they should be urban legends. For as already suggested, a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
The introduction above.....yeah! Sheesh. I read this book once, but I had to read it again to get that aha moment. You know they even made a movie about this book right? haha. To all my fellow ladies. Let me just tell you that I have spoken with most all my male friends about this subject matter. (and you guys know I have more male friends than female friends). I wanted to know what they REALLY thought and I'm not gonna lie, wanted advice. And guess what? To my dismay...they were ALL spot on and said the same thing. "Jeanie, if we're not pursuing you.....WE'RE JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU." or "We MIGHT be into you, but we're either looking for someone better OR we already found someone better."
I will continue on tomorrow with ALL the lines guys will tell you when they are just not that into you. Yes it comes from the book, but also based on the chats I've had with my guy friends. It's seriously amazing how blind I was and how much "excuses" I made. It also makes me sick because as much as I hate to admit it, they (the guys) were all right. smh. But I know they are being brutally honest because they are looking out for my best interest. Yes, I have the most awesome friends who will actually tell me the truth even if it's something I don't want to hear. So ladies and gents (but mostly to ladies), a series of blog posts will be going up regarding this matter to save you (and admittingly ME) from making the same mistakes over and over again.
TO be continued tomorrow..........
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